Does Not Fail For You When You Are Rejected or Betrayed
or Apparently Not Loved. Love Fails For You When You
Reject, Betray, and Do Not Love. . . . Therefore, The
Most Direct Way To Know Love In every moment Is To
In every moment. In The Way Of Adidam, My Devotee Is
Founded In This Capability By Virtue Of his or her Constant
Communion With Me (and, Thus and Thereby, With The Divine
Person, Reality, or Truth).
A Fool Will Fail To Cultivate The Relationship To The Beloved.
Likewise, Only A Fool Will Fail To Cultivate The human Well-being
and The Spiritual, Transcendental, and Divine Realization Of
his or her any partner in intimate embrace. And This Is Also
True: The ego (or the self-Contracted individual) Is Just Such
emotional-sexual ego Constantly Hunts For an other. The ego-"I"
(or self-Contraction) Hunts (or Seeks) an other (Even all others
and The Total Objective Cosmos) In Order To Be Gratified, Consoled,
and Protected. The Compulsive Hunting (or Search) For an other
Is Generated By The Feelings Of Un-Happiness, Emptiness, and
Separateness That Possess and Characterize the self-Contracted
an other Is Found, the ego-"I" Clings To the other,
At First pleasurably, and Then Aggressively. The ego-"I"
Depends On the other For Happiness, and, Over time, the ego-"I"
Makes Greater and Greater Demands On the other For Fulfillment
Of itself (In all of its desires). Often, In time, the other
Becomes Depressed and Exhausted By This Demand (and Thus Leaves,
or Dies). Just As Likely, the ego-"I" Discovers, Over
time, That the other Cannot or Will Not Satisfy The Absolute
Demand For attention and Consolation. In That Case, the ego-"I"
Feels Betrayed, and the ego-"I" Begins The Strategy
Of Punishing, Rejecting, and Abandoning the other,
conditionally Manifested being Has (In time) Often Been The
Proposed Victim Of This Strategy Of Separate and Separative
selves. Even More, Until The Heart Gives Way To Divine Love-Bliss,
every conditionally living being Is The Original Genius and
Grand Performer Of This Strategy Of Separate and Separative
selves. It Is The Strategy Of Narcissus, and It Is The Dreadful
Work Of all conditionally living beings who Are Not Awake To
The Truth Beyond the ego-"I".
There Is To Be Real Happiness, This Cycle Of egoic "self-Possession"
and other-Dependency (or object-Dependency Generally) Must Be
Transcended. In The Way Of Adidam, It Is Transcended Through
Most Fundamental self-Understanding, and Through self-Transcending
Love, Service, self-Discipline, and Meditation (In Responsive
Devotional Relationship To Me, and, Thus and Thereby, In Responsive
Devotional Relationship To The Divine Person), and (Eventually,
By Grace) Through Direct Realization Of The Self-Radiant (or
Inherently Spiritual), Self-Existing (or Transcendental), and
(Ultimately) Divine Self-Condition Of Being (Itself). In This
Manner, The Inherent Happiness Of The Spiritual, Transcendental,
and Divine Self Replaces The Fruitless Search (or Hunt) For
Happiness By the self-Contracted and Dependent conditional self.
. . .
egoic (or self-Contracted) individual Is (By Virtue Of his or
her History, self-Idea, and Lack Of Spiritual, Transcendental,
and Divine Realization) Chronically Bound To The Ritual Of Rejection.
The emotional (or emotional-sexual) Career Of egoity Tends To
Manifest As A Chronic Complaint That Always Says, By Countless
Means, "You Do Not Love me." This Abusive Complaint
Is Itself The Means Whereby the egoic individual Constantly
Enforces his or her Chronic Wanting Need To Reject, Avoid, or
Fail To Love others. Indeed, This Complaint Is More Than A Complaint.
It Is A self-image (The Heart-Sick or self-Pitying and Precious
Idea That "I" Is Rejected) and An Angry Act Of Retaliation
(Whereby others Are Punished For Not Sufficiently Adoring, pleasurizing,
and Immortalizing the Precious ego-"I").
egoic (or self-Contracted) individual Is Chronically and Reactively
Contracted From all of its relations. Fear Is The Root Of this
self-Contraction, and The Conceived Purpose Of this self-Contraction
Is self-Preservation, Even self-Glorification. Indeed, Fear
Is the self-Contraction. The self-Contraction, or the ego-"I",
Is The Root-Action or Primal Mood That Is Fear. Therefore, All
Of The self-Preserving, self-Glorifying, and other-Punishing
Efforts Of the ego-"I" (or the self-Contracted body-mind)
Only Preserve, Glorify, and Intensify Fear Itself.
the ego-"I", Un-Love, or The Total Ritual Of self-Contraction
Must Be Understood and Transcended. All Of Fear, egoity, self-Contraction,
or Un-Love Is Only Suffering. It Is Only Destructive. And It
Is Entirely Un-Necessary.
egoity, self-Contraction, or Un-Love Is Chronically Expressed
Through The Complex Ritual Of Rejection, or The Communication
Of The Dominant Idea "You Do Not Love me". Once This
Is (In The Way Of Adidam) Truly, and Completely, and Most Fundamentally
Understood, The Ritual Of Rejection, Fear, egoity, self-Contraction,
or Un-Love Can Be Directly Transcended, If Only It Is Summarily
Replaced By The Ordeal (or Discipline and Practice) Of self-Transcending
Love, and (Then, By Grace) Heart-Communion With and (Ultimately)
Heart-Communication Of The Divine Self-Condition, In The Form
"I Love You".
In The Way and Manner Of Adidam, Understand Your Separate and
Separative self (As Un-Love) and Transcend Your Separate and
Separative self (By Love). And This Is Perfected (Progressively,
In The Way and Manner Of Adidam) By Devotional (or self-Transcending
and self-Forgetting) Heart-Surrender Of the conditional body-mind
To My Bodily (Human) Form, and My Spiritual (and Always Blessing)
Presence, and My Very (and Inherently Perfect) State, and, Thus
and Thereby, To The Person and The Forms or Characteristics
Of The Spiritual, and Transcendental, and Divine, Self.
You Will Thus Be Love (By This Devotion), You Must Also Constantly
Encounter, Understand, and Transcend The Rejection Rituals Of
others who Are, Even If Temporarily or Only Apparently, Bereft
Of Divine Wisdom, Therefore, If You Will Be Love (As My Devotee,
and, Thus and Thereby, As A Devotee Of The Divine Person), You
Must (In The Way and Manner Of The Heart) Always Skillfully
Transcend The Tendency To Become Un-Love (and Thus To Become
self-Bound, Apparently Divorced From Grace-Given Divine Communion)
In Reaction To The Apparent Lovelessness Of others. And You
Must Not Withdraw From Grace-Given Divine Communion (or Become
Degraded By Un-Love) Even When Circumstances Within Your Intimate
Sphere, or Within The Sphere Of Your Appropriate social Responsibility,
Require You To Make Difficult Gestures To Counter and Control
The Effects or Undermine and Discipline The Negative and Destructive
Effectiveness Of The Rituals Of Un-Love That Are Performed By
those who Are Committed To Love (and who Always Commune With
The One Who Is Love), Even Rejection By others Is Received and
Accepted As A Wound, Not An Insult. Even The Heart-Necessity
To Love and To Be Loved Is A Wound. Even The Fullest Realization
Of Love Is A Wound That Never Heals.
egoic Ritual Calls every individual To Defend himself or herself
Against The Wounds Of Love and The Wounding Signs Of Un-Love
(or egoic self-Contraction) In the daily world. Therefore, Even
In The Context Of True Intimacy, The Tendency (Apart From Spiritual
Responsibility) Is To Act As If Every Wound (Which Is Simply
A Hurt) Is An Insult (or A Reason To Punish).
Reactive Rituals Of egoity Must Be Released By The self-Transcending
(and Then Spiritual) Practice Of Love. This Requires Each and
Every Practitioner Of The Way Of Adidam To Observe, Understand,
and Relinquish The emotionally Reactive Cycle Of Rejection and
Punishment. And The Necessary Prerequisites For Such Relinquishment
Are Vulnerability (or The Ability To Feel The Wounds Of Love
Without Retaliation), Sensitivity To the other In Love (or The
Ability To Sympathetically Observe, Understand, Forgive, Love,
and Not Punish or Dissociate From the other In Love), and Love
Itself (or The Ability To Love, To Know You Are Loved, To
Love, and To Know That Both You and the other, Regardless Of
Any Appearance To The Contrary, Are Vulnerable To Love and Heart-Requiring
Is Not Necessary (or Even Possible) To Become Immune To The
Feeling Of Being Rejected. To Become Thus Immune, You Would
Have To Become Immune To Love Itself. What Is Necessary (and
Also Possible) Is To Enter Fully Into The Spiritual Life-Sphere
Of Love. In The Way Of Adidam, This Is Done By First Entering
(By Heart) Into My Company (and, Thus and Thereby, Into The
Company Of The Divine Person), and (Therein) To Submit To The
Divine Embrace Of Love, Wherein Not Only Are You Loved, but
You Are Love Itself. Then You Must Magnify That Love-Radiance
In the world of human relationships.
You Will Do This, Then You Must Do The Sadhana (or Concentrated
Practice) Of True Active Love and Real (True and Steady) Trust.
As A Practical Matter, You Must Stop Dramatizing The egoic Ritual
Of Betrayal In Reaction To The Feeling Of Being Rejected. You
Must Understand, Transcend, and Release The Tendency To Respond
(or React) To Signs Of Rejection (or Signs That You Are Not
Loved) As If You Are Insulted, Rather Than Wounded. That Is
To Say, You Must Stop Punishing and Rejecting others When You
Feel Rejected. If You Punish another When You Feel This, You
Will Act As If You Are Immune To Love's Wound. Thus, You Will
Pretend To Be Angrily Insulted, Rather Than Suffer To Be Wounded.
In The Process, You Will Withdraw and Withhold Love. You Will
Stand Off, Independent and Dissociated. You Will Only Reinforce
The Feeling Of Being Rejected, and You Will Compound It By Actually
Rejecting the other. In This Manner, You Will Become Un-Love.
You Will Fail To Love. You Will Fail To Live In The Sphere Of
Love. Your Own Acts Of Un-Love Will Degrade You, Delude You,
and Separate You From Your Love-partner (or Your partners In
Love) and From Love Itself. Therefore, those who Fail To Practice
The Sadhana Of Love In their intimate emotional-sexual relationships,
and In human relationships Generally, Will, By That Failure,
Turn Away (or Contract) From God (or The Great Condition That
Is Reality Itself).
Does Not Fail For You When You Are Rejected or Betrayed or Apparently
Not Loved. Love Fails For You When You Reject, Betray, and Do
Not Love. Therefore, If You Listen To Me, and Also If You Hear
Me, and Also If You See Me, Do Not Stand Off From Relationship.
Be Vulnerable. Be Wounded When Necessary, and Endure That Wound
or Hurt. Do Not Punish the other In Love. Communicate To one
another, Even Discipline one another, but Do Not Dissociate
From one another or Fail To Grant one another The Knowledge
Of Love. Realize That each one Wants To Love and To Be Loved
By the other In Love. Therefore, Love. Do This Rather Than
Any Effort To Get Rid Of The Feeling Of Being Rejected. To Feel
Rejected Is To Feel The Hurt Of Not Being Loved. Allow That
Hurt, but Do Not Let It Become The Feeling Of Lovelessness.
Be Vulnerable and Thus Not Insulted. If You Are Merely Hurt,
You Will Still Know The Necessity (or The Heart's Requirement)
Of Love, and You Will Still Know The Necessity (or The Heart's
Requirement) To Love.
Habit Of Reacting To Apparent Rejection (By others) As If It
Were An Insult Always Coincides With (and Only Reveals) The
Habit Of Rejecting (or Not Loving) others. Any one whose Habitual
Tendency Is To Reject and Not Love others In The Face Of their
Apparent Acts Of Rejection and Un-Love Will Tend To Reject and
Not Love others Even When they Are Only Loving. Narcissus, The
Personification Of the ego, the self-Contraction, or The Complex
Avoidance Of Relationship, Is Famous For his Rejection Of The
Lady, Echo, who Only Loved him. Therefore, If You Listen To
Me, and Also If You Hear Me, and Also If You See Me, Be Vulnerable
In Love. If You Remain Vulnerable In Love, You Will Still Feel
Love's Wound, but You Will Remain In Love. In This Manner, You
Will Always Remain In The human (and Then Divine) Sphere Of
The Most Direct Way To Know Love In every moment Is To
Love In every moment.
The Way Of Adidam, My Devotee Is Founded In This Capability
By Virtue Of his or her Constant Communion With Me (and, Thus
and Thereby, With The Divine Person, Reality, or Truth). Therefore,
If any such a one Fails To Be Steady In This Communion With
Divine Love-Bliss, Then he or she Will Become Weak In Love.
And To Be Weak In Love (At Any Stage Of Life) Is To Be Always
Already Independent, Insulted, Empty With Craving, In Search
Of Love, Manipulative, Un-Happy, and Moved To Punish, Betray,
and Destroy all relationships. Such a Weak one Always Already
Feels Rejected and Is Never Satisfied. Indeed, such a one Is
Not Even Found To Be Truly Lovable By others.
who Love Are
Love, and others Inevitably Love them. Those who Only Seek For
Love Are Not themselves Love, and So they Do Not Find It. (Even
If they Are Loved, they Do Not Get The Knowledge Of It.) Only
The Lover Is Lovable. Therefore, Every Heart Should Become As
True Love Is. And My Every Listening Devotee, My Every Hearing
Devotee, and My Every Seeing Devotee Should Realize (and Demonstrate)
This Principle In True Active Love With Me (and Real, True Trust
In Me), The One Who Is Love.